On introverts and how to interact with us.

Volkrov (Eurrsk) Ruk

Eurrsk

Re: On introverts and how to interact with us.

December 10 2013
Introverted myself
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Saintplazma

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December 11 2013
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Shawn Birch

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December 11 2013
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Shawn Birch

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December 11 2013
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Aztroz

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December 11 2013
Quote by SaintPlazma
Makes me wonder how many introverts are empathic , and how many are more comfortable with only other introverts.


As a counter example, I'm an empath and a total extrovert. I am comfortable with both personality types, but have to admit to "clicking" better with extroverts.

Just my two EC. :)
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December 11 2013
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Ben Osbourn

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December 11 2013
I find I click better with Is as well however I'm attracted to Es... I understand Is better so click better with them. I also find that Es tend to mis-understand and mis-interpret my quietness and my need to be left alone at times. 3 of my x-partners were Es and this caused a lot of confusion, upset and mus-understandings. I tend to find I deal with crowds and socialising better during the summer than winter (probably because my bi-polar has a seasonal pattern). I'm definitely feeling better about being an I the more I realise I'm not so alone in being this way...

Thanks everyone for sharing ;-)
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Unknown Person

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December 11 2013
Quote by Zander_Hawk
In the last picture, she reminded me of Joan from Mad Men.
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Of course the girl in the cartoon is quite the opposite of Joan

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Love that show! I'm a bit of an I as well also due to being bullied as a kid because I was always short for my age and had a high-pitched voice, nicknames included Keebler Elf and Mickey Mouse. Solitude has never troubled me and often times I prefer it, but I guess at some point I felt I shouldn't be so introverted and made a concerted effort to alter my social propensities.

Now I'm an odd mixture (if that's possible) because I do like large parties, they're so intimate, small parties there isn't any privacy ;) (points if you get the reference.) My BF is waaay more I than myself and I've become the one that makes us go out to events and hang out with friends for the most part.

I find that the more introverted a person is, the more extroverted I become to sort of fill-in the gap I guess. If I find myself with someone even more extroverted than me, I tend to be a bit more quiet and reserved until I get to know the person better, or get a few drinks in me, whichever comes first. :P
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Vidannotaredshirt79

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December 12 2013
I was an introvert when I was younger. Just because I didn't want people to know I was a foster kid/group home boy and because of my voice. I had many nicknames in High School; Raspy and The Godfather were just a couple. I also came out in High School and ended my relationship with my then girlfriend which made life so much better. After High School I moved to Pittsburgh and became a total extrovert. I went out to the bars/clubs at 19 and I got in because I was cute. Not bragging or being egotistical. I was a skinny little Puerto Rican boy with a 29 inch waist. But now I am back to being an introvert. Not sure how it happened, Being severely depressed doesn't help either. My voice hinders me too. I don't like to open my mouth. I can't even ask for help in a store half the time. I either ask Bruce to ask for me or I just leave the store. I used to go out walking everyday. Sometimes I'd walk 11-12 miles and not even realize it till my legs started to turn to rubber. But I felt at peace and with my headphones on, I was in my own little world. I barely go out anymore. And when I do I feel forced. And I am often if not always running late because subconsciously or consciously I don't want to go. I liked coming on STO because I felt like I met people I could connect with and I see that many of you have similar issues. While this does not make me happy, it does make me feel better. But lately even STO has felt like a forced social thing. Winter is the worst time for me too. All the grey and gloom makes me want to sleep all the time. Enough of my babbling. Off to kill some Voth or Borg.
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Shawn Birch

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December 12 2013
Quote by Vidan@notaredshirt79
I was an introvert when I was younger. Just because I didn't want people to know I was a foster kid/group home boy and because of my voice. I had many nicknames in High School; Raspy and The Godfather were just a couple. I also came out in High School and ended my relationship with my then girlfriend which made life so much better. After High School I moved to Pittsburgh and became a total extrovert. I went out to the bars/clubs at 19 and I got in because I was cute. Not bragging or being egotistical. I was a skinny little Puerto Rican boy with a 29 inch waist. But now I am back to being an introvert. Not sure how it happened, Being severely depressed doesn't help either. My voice hinders me too. I don't like to open my mouth. I can't even ask for help in a store half the time. I either ask Bruce to ask for me or I just leave the store. I used to go out walking everyday. Sometimes I'd walk 11-12 miles and not even realize it till my legs started to turn to rubber. But I felt at peace and with my headphones on, I was in my own little world. I barely go out anymore. And when I do I feel forced. And I am often if not always running late because subconsciously or consciously I don't want to go. I liked coming on STO because I felt like I met people I could connect with and I see that many of you have similar issues. While this does not make me happy, it does make me feel better. But lately even STO has felt like a forced social thing. Winter is the worst time for me too. All the grey and gloom makes me want to sleep all the time. Enough of my babbling. Off to kill some Voth or Borg.


Super Huge Big Large Bear hugs!
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Angel

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Re: On introverts and how to interact with us.

December 20 2013
I went to a Christmas party tonight hosted by a friend and his wife. It was OK, at first, a few people I knew and who were always very friendly and welcoming to me. It seemed nice and cozy and I felt I could be OK.

Then more and more people started showing up and I felt the rising panic inside me. Everyone was talking and I was hiding in a corner gripping a cup of ice water for dear life.

Finally I couldn't take it, any more, picked up my coat and walked outside to escape. Someone followed me out, I thought it was my friend, but it was one of the other guests I didn't know. She gave me a weird look and went to get something out of her car. As soon as she was back inside I was in my car and a couple of minutes later, on my way home.

Back to my hamster ball where it's safe; why did I ever decide to get out of it?
Volkrov (Eurrsk) Ruk

Eurrsk

Re: On introverts and how to interact with us.

December 20 2013
Quote by Vidan@notaredshirt79
I was an introvert when I was younger. Just because I didn't want people to know I was a foster kid/group home boy and because of my voice. I had many nicknames in High School; Raspy and The Godfather were just a couple. I also came out in High School and ended my relationship with my then girlfriend which made life so much better. After High School I moved to Pittsburgh and became a total extrovert. I went out to the bars/clubs at 19 and I got in because I was cute. Not bragging or being egotistical. I was a skinny little Puerto Rican boy with a 29 inch waist. But now I am back to being an introvert. Not sure how it happened, Being severely depressed doesn't help either. My voice hinders me too. I don't like to open my mouth. I can't even ask for help in a store half the time. I either ask Bruce to ask for me or I just leave the store. I used to go out walking everyday. Sometimes I'd walk 11-12 miles and not even realize it till my legs started to turn to rubber. But I felt at peace and with my headphones on, I was in my own little world. I barely go out anymore. And when I do I feel forced. And I am often if not always running late because subconsciously or consciously I don't want to go. I liked coming on STO because I felt like I met people I could connect with and I see that many of you have similar issues. While this does not make me happy, it does make me feel better. But lately even STO has felt like a forced social thing. Winter is the worst time for me too. All the grey and gloom makes me want to sleep all the time. Enough of my babbling. Off to kill some Voth or Borg.



Aww... Tony. *big warm huggles* Yeah, totally get what you mean.
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Volkrov (Eurrsk) Ruk

Eurrsk

Re: On introverts and how to interact with us.

December 20 2013
Quote by Angelsilhouette
I went to a Christmas party tonight hosted by a friend and his wife. It was OK, at first, a few people I knew and who were always very friendly and welcoming to me. It seemed nice and cozy and I felt I could be OK.

Then more and more people started showing up and I felt the rising panic inside me. Everyone was talking and I was hiding in a corner gripping a cup of ice water for dear life.

Finally I couldn't take it, any more, picked up my coat and walked outside to escape. Someone followed me out, I thought it was my friend, but it was one of the other guests I didn't know. She gave me a weird look and went to get something out of her car. As soon as she was back inside I was in my car and a couple of minutes later, on my way home.

Back to my hamster ball where it's safe; why did I ever decide to get out of it?


Eep. Sorry to hear that :( *hug squeezes* I get the same feeling of discomfort too whenever I'm at a party with lots of people I don't know. Sometimes, I would just chill outside to breathe in the cool air to help settle down those nerves.
Angel

Angelsilhouette

Re: On introverts and how to interact with us.

December 21 2013
Quote by Baothezar
Sounds like agoraphobia.


My therapist says it isn't Agorophobia because if I had that I would always be mindful of an escape route. He says I would also not want to drive on the inside lane because there would be no easy/quick escape, same with bridges.