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Quote by Lost.7805
For instance. A 5 year old may have a very mature reaction to something. That was not a natural occurrence in my opinion. It was the parents and what was taught to the child. How was that child's problem solving skills developed in the first place.
I realize this was a statement and not a question but I'm going to add the ? to the end of your statement and explain:
Even though parents do
try to instill maturity in their kids. I don't believe "maturity" in anyone is so much a taught and learned behavior as your statement suggests. It's my opinion that is is a natural gift...and a deep or shallow well this person draws from to react or take no action at all.
This is why some people or even kids have a
loosely measurable maturity level that would seem to fill up an 18-wheeler were as some others maturity levels might not fill a coffee cup. Parents teaching and guidance (or other influences) are actually the polish and shaping on something that is already there... a base formula if you wish...that is already there in abundance or barely at all.
So for example...your five year old comes home from school and recounts that a bully was picking on some smaller weaker kid and your child intervened and not only confronted the bully physically to stop him from what he was doing but he also reported the entire matter to lets say a guidance counselor. You the parent have taught your child that fighting is wrong and mind your own business...and yet he/she disregards your teaching and influence and did what he did to stop the bully.
Under these conditions and similar other ones...one has to ask...where did this level of maturity come from? When all things he/she was taught would have dictated a very different reaction or inaction from this child.
These particular set of circumstances are called, "surprises!" Where you would turn around as the parent and think or say..."
WoW! I didn't know my kid had that in him / her!"
I absolutely respect that many of you want to believe that mental maturity (not physical) maturity
literally comes from long life experiences and teaching from other people, family and friends and the like...
but a very basic core foundation of maturity is something you already have.....ALL the rest that comes after your ability to analyze any given situation...is more and more polish and shaping on a very unique and natural ability..that will play out circumstantially as your life gets longer.
Then all hell will break loose (sometimes) when
perspective by other people enters the picture...and the reason that happens is all too obvious. Different strokes for different folks.
Quote by mcavey
... I also think the definition itself varies based on the perspective/person as it involves some degree of judgment. What’s “appropriate” varies. IE- if someone stands up against a bigot - that action may be viewed as mature by one person because "(s)he stood up for what's 'right' – (s)he was mature"; however another person might find the action immature because ignoring the bigot was a more appropriate and mature action.
You are 100% correct my friend! :)